Chapters Regarding Funerals

It wasnarrated that Ibn ‘Umar said: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)forbade following a funeral that was accompanied by a wailing woman.”

It wasnarrated from ‘Abdullah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)said: “Heis not one of us who tears his garments, strikes his cheeks,andcries with the cry of the Days of Ignorance.’”

It wasnarrated from Abu Umamah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)cursed thewoman who scratches her face and rends her garment andcries that sheis doomed (i.e. because of the death of this person).

‘Abdur-Rahman bin Yazid and Abu Burdah said: “When Abu Musa fellsick, his wife Umm ‘Abdullah started to wail loudly. He woke up andsaid to her: ‘Do you not know that I am innocent of those whom theMessenger of Allah (ﷺ) declared innocence of?’ And he told herthatthe Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘I am innocent of those whoshavetheir heads, raise their voices and tear their garments (attimes ofcalamity).’”

It wasnarrated from Abu Hurairah that the Prophet (ﷺ) wasattending afuneral. ‘Umar saw a woman and shouted at her, but theProphet(ﷺ) said, “Leave her alone, O ‘Umar, for the eye weeps andtheheart is afflicted, and the bereavement is recent.”

Usamahbin Zaid said: “The son of one of the daughters of theMessenger ofAllah (ﷺ) was dying. She sent for him, asking him tocome to her,and he sent word to her, saying: ‘To Allah belongs whatHe hastaken and to Him belongs what He has given. Everything has anappointed time with Him, so be patient and seek reward.’ But shesentfor him again, adjuring him to come. So the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ)got up, and I got up with him, as did Mu’adh bin Jabal, Ubayybin Ka’band ‘Ubadah bin Samit. When we entered they handed thechild to theMessenger of Allah (ﷺ), and his soul was rattling inhis chest.” Ithink he was that it was like a water skin. “TheMessenger of Allah(ﷺ) wept, and ‘Ubadah bin Samit said to him:‘What is this, OMessenger of Allah?’ He said: ‘It iscompassion which Allah hascreated in the son of Adam. Allah onlyshows mercy to those of Hisslaves who are compassionate.’”

It wasnarrated that Asma’ bint Yazid said: “When Ibrahim, the son ofthe Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), died, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)wept.The one who was consoling him, either Abu Bakr or ‘Umar, saidto him:‘You are indeed the best of those who glorify Allah withwhat is dueto him.’ The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: ‘The eyeweeps and theheart grieves, but we do not say anything that angersthe Lord. Wereit not that death is something that inevitably comesto all, and thatthe latter will surely join the former, then wewould have been morethan we are, verily we grieve for you.’”

It wasnarrated from Hamnah bint Jahsh that it was said to her: “Yourbrother has been killed.” She said: “May Allah have mercy on him.Innalillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un (Truly, to Allah we belong andtruly,to Him we shall return).” They said: “Your husband hasbeen killed.”She said: “O grief!” The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)said: “The woman hasa strong love for her husband, which she doesnot have for anythingelse.”

It wasnarrated from Ibn ‘Umar that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)passed bysome women of ‘Abdul-Ashhal who were weeping for their slainon theDay of Uhud. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “But there isnoone to weep for Hamzah.” So the women of Ansar started to weep forHamzah. The messenger of Allah (ﷺ) woke up and said, ‘Woe tothem,have they not gone home yet? Tell them to go home and not toweep foranyone who dies after this day.’”

It wasnarrated that Ibn Abi Awfa said: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)forbade eulogies.”

It wasnarrated from ‘Umar bin Khattab that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Thedeceased is punished for the wailing over him.”

It wasnarrated from Asid bin Abu Asid, from Musa bin Abu Musa Ash’ari,from his father that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “The deceased ispunished for the weeping of the living. If they say: ‘O mystrength, O he who clothed us, O my help, O my rock,’ and so on, heis rebuked and it is said: ‘Were you really like that? Were youreally like that?’” Asid said: "I said: 'Subhan-Allah! Allah says: "And no bearer of burdens shall another's burden (35:18)." He said: "Woe to you, I tell you that Abu Musa narrated to me from the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), and you think that Abu Musa was telling lies about the Prophet (ﷺ)? Or do you think that I am telling lies about Abu Musa?"

It wasnarrated that ‘Aishah said: “A Jewish woman had died, and theProphet (ﷺ) heard the weeping for her. He said: ‘Her family isweeping for her, and he is being punished in her grave.’”

It wasnarrated from Anas bin Malik that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)said: ‘Patience should come with the first shock.”

It wasnarrated from Abu Umamah that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Allahsays:‘O son of Adam! If you are patient and seek reward at the momentoffirst shock, I will not approve of any reward for you less thanParadise.’”

It wasnarrated from Umm Salamah that Abu Salamah told her that heheard theMessenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: “There is no Muslim who isstrickenwith a calamity and reacts by saying as Allah has commanded:‘Innalillahi, wa inna ilayhi raji’un. Allahumma indakah-tasabtumusibati, fajurni iha, wa ‘awwidni minha (Truly, to Allah we belongand truly, to Him we shall return. O Allah, with You I seek rewardformy calamity, so reward me for it and compensate me),’ but Allahwillreward him for that and compensate him with something betterthan it.”She said: “When Abu Salamah died, I remembered what hehad told mefrom the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and I said: ‘Innalillahi, wa innailayhi raji’un. Allahumma indakah-tasabtumusibati, fajurni ihaiha(Truly, to Allah we belong and truly, to Himwe shall return. O Allah,with You I seek reward for my calamity, soreward me for it).’ Butwhen I wanted to say wa ‘awwidni minha(and compensate me withbetter), I said to myself: ‘How can I becompensated with somethingbetter than Abu Salamah?’ Then I saidit, and Allah compensated mewith Muhammad (ﷺ) and rewarded me formy calamity.”

It wasnarrated that ‘Aishah said: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)openeda door that was between him and the people or drew back acurtain andhe saw the people praying behind Abu Bakr. He praisedAllah for whathe saw of their good situation and hoped that Allahsucceed him bywhat he saw in them.* He said: ‘O people, whoever amongthe peopleor among the believers is stricken with a calamity, thenlet himconsole himself with the loss of me, for no one among mynation willbe stricken with any calamity worse than my loss.’”

It wasnarrated from Fatimah bint Husain that her father said: TheProphet(ﷺ) said: “Whoever was stricken with a calamity and when heremembers it he says ‘Inna lillahi, wa inna ilayhi raji’un(Truly, toAllah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return),’even though ithappened a long time ago, Allah will record for him areward like thatof the day it befell him.”

Qais,Abu ‘Umarah, the freed slave of the Ansar, said: “I heard‘Abdullah bin Abu Bakr bin Muhammad bin ‘Amr bin Hazm narratingfromhis father, from his grandfather, that the Prophet (ﷺ) said:‘Thereis no believer who consoles for his brother for a calamity,but Allahwill clothe him with garments of honor on the Day ofResurrection.’”

It wasnarrated that ‘Abdullah said: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)said:‘Whoever consoles a person stricken by calamity will have arewardequal to his.’”

It wasnarrated from Abu Hurairah that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Noman wholoses three of his children will ever enter the Fire, exceptinfulfillment of the oath (of Allah).”*

‘Utbahbin ‘Abd Sulami said: “I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)say:‘There is no Muslim, three of whose children die before reachingthe age of puberty, but they will meet him at the eight gates ofParadise and whichever one he wants he will enter through it.’”

It wasnarrated from Anas bin Malik that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Thereare no two Muslims (mother and father), three of whose childrendiebefore reaching the age of puberty, but Allah will admit them toParadise by virtue of His mercy towards them.”

It wasnarrated from ‘Abdullah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)said: “Whoever sends fourth three of his children who had not reachedtheage of puberty, they will be a strong fortification for himagainstthe Fire.” Abu Dharr said: “I sent forth two.” He said: “Andtwo” Ubayy bin Ka’b, the chief of the reciters, said: “I sentforthone.” He said: “Even one.”

It wasnarrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)said: ‘Amiscarried fetus sent before me is dearer to me than ahorseman whomI leave behind.”

It wasnarrated that ‘Ali said: “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:‘Themiscarried fetus will plead with his Lord if his parents areadmittedto Hell. It will be said: “O fetus who pleads with your Lord!Admityour parents to Paradise.” So he will drag them out with hisumbilical cord until he admits them to Paradise.’”

It wasnarrated from Mu’adh bin Jabal that the Prophet (ﷺ) said: “Bythe One in Whose Hand is my soul! The miscarried fetus will draghismother by his umbilical cord to Paradise, if she (was patient and)sought reward (for her loss).”

It wasnarrated that ‘Abdullah bin Ja’far said: “When news of thedeath of Ja’far was brought, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:‘Prepare food for the family of Ja’far, for there has come tothemthat which is keeping them busy or something which is keepingthembusy.”

Asma’bint ‘Umais said: “When Ja’far was killed, the Messenger ofAllah (ﷺ) went to his family and said: ‘The family of Ja’fararebusy with the matter of their deceased, so prepare food forthem.’”